Suksy's Pensieve

Life is lived in Silos.. But everyone thinks he will be able to influence others.. Everyone thinks he is a Swami Vivekananda or a Bhagat Singh or a Chandrashekar Azad or a Veer Savarkar or even a Subhash Chandra Bose. A few people even think they are Gandhi / MLK Jr / Nelson Mandela. What they do not realize is that the society of those days needed people like this and today, the society is full of people believing that they are like these noble souls. I participated in a few social functions over the past few weekends and what I realized is that it is best to be like a water drop on a lotus leaf.. present but not involved - Like the current day politicians.. Present for all practical purposes but not getting involved in anything worthwhile - I kinda really adore them for that specific aspect of their personality... Just that these politicians do whatever they are doing for a selfish sake - to fill up their granaries with wealth. The more I got involved in conversations, the more ...

I have always enjoyed a trip... and I feel the best trips come if you don't have a plan.  It has happened in the past when the original plan was A and we finally completed B.  Though there might be a lot of folks who will disagree with me and will stress on the planning part of the trips - to plan it to the last minute detail as to where they are going, what time they might reach that place and where they might end up staying, I'd rather take things on the go and make the most of whatever comes my way (literally!)  Last weekend, I had a plan to visit Mysore on Saturday to meet a friend and his family. The plan did not go through... (when has a plan ever gone through!) and on Friday EOD, I found myself desperate to get going out of Bangalore.  Friday night, me and a few cousins discussed on Whatsapp, tried to book self drive vehicles to fit in all of us and finally, ended up deciding to go in my car.  Saturday morning, headed out by 530 and ...

I always loved cycling... albeit the fact that I had fought with my parents for making me learn cycling. I was kinda forced to learn cycling during my summer holidays of my 5th grade. I guess I feared the pain of falling. But nothing ever can be achieved without pain. I learnt cycling and before long, I was arguing for my own cycle, not keen on using a ladies cycle of my sister. With my cycle, I went to my highschool, my under-graduation and my graduation as well. During my under-graduation, I also lied to my parents about two people forcing me to go all the way to Ranganathittu from Mysore on my cycle.. though it was my plan through and through - the adventurous spirit I guess!!   During my first work experience, We had cycles to go round the campus and I did that at all times of the day.. It was a BPO and I had the opportunity to cycle at any time of the day / night that you could imagine. A break from work meant that I was on a cycle going round the campus, just to return ...

These days, I keep hearing this word "Divorce" quite often. Wonder why people are so keen on breaking something that they made with great efforts. Not taking names here but a very close friend of mine got married. Theirs was a very happy married life.. so happy that many folks felt jealous about their beautiful relationship. They were blessed with their next generation but a couple of years down the line, they are now separated. It came like a bolt from the blue when I got to hear this. I know so many people in person who are separated and are living their own lives independently, albeit with a longing for companionship. The scenario is that the parents of such individuals are to face comments whenever a person of the other gender visits this person. Unfortunately, the parents of my age group are still old fashioned and this affects them. Also, there is a saying.. It is easy to start something, it is easier to stop something. However, it is very tough to keep it going....

It is said that 3 consecutive why's makes a person come out with the truth.. the interesting part is.. how to put the WHYs across without offending anyone. A WHY is the most interesting WH question that you can ever come across.. for everything that has happened, there is a WHY. For everything that has not happened, there is again a WHY. For everything that exists, there is a WHY. For everything that has ceased to exist, there is again a WHY. I have been chided and goaded for asking a lot of questions.. again.. WHY? I have been ridiculed in my childhood.. and been taken advantage of during my everyday.. again WHY? I have often found myself in negative and low situations.. again WHY? It might be assumed that I am not bold or unable to answer back.. the actual reason, I guess and keep telling myself, is that I don't want to oppose or take a stance against anything / anyone that is happening. Let things flow the usual way that they normally flow.. why be a boulder.. b...

Happiness is a state of mind.. it is not getting your desires fulfilled, it is not fulfilling someone's desires. It is not getting all the help that you want.. it is not helping someone in need... it is just a state of mind. You can be happy whenever you want to.. even in the worst of situations. It is not time-bound. It is not situation bound.. it is again.. just a state of mind. You can be happy wherever you want to.. even in the depths of hell... it is not place bound, it is not with whom you are.. it is again.. just a state of mind. Happiness is in a chocolate.. it is in a ball game.. it is in a ballroom dance.. it is even in a bike ride or a long walk in the hot sun. Happiness is in a tweet, in reading someone's FB post, in listening to a song that you love.. in listening to some music. Happiness, however, is not CAUSED by these happenings.. it is caused by your mind.. it is caused by you! Suppose, I stay hungry for a day... my folks might not be happy.. but I...

Nee maaye oLago.. maaye ninn oLago..  Have just heard this statement so many times ... thanks to FB Postings about Lucia..  Whenever I heard Lucia, I always had a understanding about Lucid Dreams.. Well.. for all I know, the plot of Lucia is just not Lucid. Not that I have seen it .. but whatever I have heard about it..  I have always had a fascination towards dreams.. so much so that I even day dream.. and yet, I have been told time and again that if you were in a deep sleep, you can never remember your dream.  There are some theories that any dreams, that occur in dawn, or just before you wake up, will become true.  There are also some theories that you can dream only about someone you know or have seen or met sometime in your life. You can never dream about an unknown thing / place / person.  << Ha ha.. Bollywood dreams in Swiss alps with romantic duets.. Take a Hike I say!>>  I get lost in dreams even while sitti...

Or is it typer's block??? Been long since I posted something.. Not that I did not have any thoughts.. In fact, I had so many thoughts that I was unable to decide as to which to blog about and which not to. Crazy things happening in life.. some negative, some positive, some awesome, some that I wish I can forget. Hope I can be regular from now on!

Well, this came as a shocker to me today.. I realized that my command over the English Language has gone for a toss, either because of FB or because of twitter or because I'm using too many expletives. Whenever I used to interact with folks earlier, they used to commend me for my language.. and I used to take pride in being an alumnus of the CFTRI school in Mysore.. One of "THE BEST SCHOOLS EVER!!!". It so happened that if someone had deleted my phone number and I started interacting with them in English, they used to recognize me immediately... Probably, the first ever name they used to utter in a reply to an sms would be "Is this Sukumar"? Now, it is happening the other way around.. They never take my name.. and If I start sms'ing them in Kannada, they realize it is me! It is not that I am not happy with this fact.. I am happy coz my Kannada has improved and though I am not a Kannadiga by race, I am a Kannadiga by birth. I am an Iyer by race but m...

"Kannada Barutha??", ah! I am sure most of you in Bangalore would have heard this, but what is "kannada barutha?" here it goes. Bangalore the IT capital of India , the silicon city and now a Metro city opened its gates to almost all kinds of people. Very evidently the recent poll census proved that there are only 47% of original inhabitants in Bangalore/bengaluru. The life style of the city has seen a gradual change with Pizza Corners replacing MTR's, classy eat out's replacing "Vidyarthi Bhavans" and flashy pub's replacing all our "Mahalakshmi wine shops". "Change is inevitable" from the days of BEML, HAL and BHEL to INFOSYS, WIPRO; Bangalore has a new look now on the world map. Gone are the days where a typical Sunday for any bangalorean was a nice romantic walk on the pavements of "LALBAGH...", "rave idli and coffee.." at the nearest yet old looking MTR and a wonderful Annavra film either at Santosh o...

This post is an ode to Bengaluru - Inspired by constantmotion . Though I might not be able to put my thoughts in a poem, I would definitely put it in paragraphs. This post was framed in mind during the first bengaluru tweetup which was named as "chat over chaats"! We are expecting more pics of the same.. till then, a few of the pics are here here a nd here . and The idea was just to meet and have fun. This was in the pipeline from the past 3 months. What started off as a discussion between @hnprashanth (of techbangalore) and @pqrshanth (of payaniga) wa s interrupted b y me who thought of joining in for the chaats @ the chaat street . This blogpost is being completed after bengaluru had its second tw-eat-up. A few pointers abt namma bengaluru are listed below.. This list is de finitely not exha ustive and is purely my view of the things here: You can compose a blogpost on the way to office - courtesy traffic jams in namma bengaluru! People honk on the...

Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another. Love, on the other hand, is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows - one day at a time. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity, you are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real, it gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warned by his/her presence, even when is away. Long distances do not separate you. You want him/her near, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait. Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him/her." Love says, "Be patient, Don't Panic. He/she is yours. Plan your future with confidence." Infatuation...

The most common of bumper stickers on cars is "CATCH ME IF YOU CAN". The latest FAB in them is "CHANGE ME IF YOU CAN", probably of an EGOISTIC person like me! If I get a car, I would put that sticker on for sure. ;) Everyone is scared of change, but they would eventually change and blame it on the circumstances that caused them. They say, I would not have changed, if it were not to be that shit and this shit. C'mon buggers, grow up. Open your eyes and admit the truth that you were too scared of standing against the flow. There are quite a few incidents in life that will make you change or that will give you an opportunity to change. You should recognize those opportunities and change. There are quite many incidents in life that will ask you to change, but you could continue the way you were earlier without causing much damage. There are other incidents which give you an opportunity to change the course of events post those incidents. You could grab at them ...

It's all about money.. honey! My cousin used to say that whatever comes, it first comes to your pocket/wallet and then to your psyche. Later would it come to your physical being. He was scolded by one and all when he used to speak like this, but it is nothing but the truth that he used to utter. Thinking about the same, if you fall ill or if someone of your closest circle falls ill, the first thing that hurts is your wallet/bank balance coz you need to spend on taking him/her to treatment etc etc. Then comes your psyche when you would get worried about how you would take care of that person. Then comes your physical strains of having to shuttle between office, home and clinic/hospital. However, it is not that much of a different scenario if you fall ill. No wonder you will be physically tired and psychologically tired after hearing to every tom, dick or harry abt how to get treated or which doctor to approach for the perfect treatment, you will hurt even more by your wallet...

In continuance of my previous post "Relationships", I got a huge comment from a friend of mine (Sudheer) which I did not publish coz I wanted the same to come as a blogpost. So, here goes. First the comment and then, my views on the same: Hey suksi, Liked ur interpretation on relationships and memories and the corresponding pain that follows as a natural corollary... I feel that it is in our very basic desires that make us choose people as either our friends or hubby's let me explain: If " I " as a person likes biking " I " will go in search of people who do biking and try to build a relation so that " I "can get some one to understand 'my' thoughts or try find one who becomes a medium of expression for " Me ", a thought which gives " Me " pleasure and not that the other person likes biking or birding. It is here where " expectations" start building up - like " I " woul...

Here I come with open hands, Approaching people with a request to embrace me boldly, Yet people try to run away from me, Wonder why they are scared, though I am a certainty. I'm so mean-minded, I don't go to all, I don't accept people who come to me, yet I approach them all, I want stuff to happen my way, Wonder why I am like this, though I'm a certainty. There are a very few people who come to me, As openly and friendly as I approach them, And I even accept them, whom I don't want to come to me Wonder why people are impatient, though I'm a certainty. I don't want any agents working for me, Nor do I want to cause pain and agony, I keep trying to make people accept me, Wonder why they don't understand, though I'm a certainty Yet there are agents working for me, Oh hell, why do are these people so inhumane, Coz they cause a lot of pain and agony, Wonder why they act like this, though I'm...

Been quite a while since I posted... No, not that I had a lot of work.. No, not even that I did not have any topics to blog upon, and No, definitely not that I wanted to take a break from blogging.. Just that I was too lazy to sit and compose a post. I have been a part (again, just a part) of many discussions related to relations / relationships / how to maintain them /  what goes wrong / why it hurts etc etc... and thought it would be best if I do a post on the same. A friend of mine has started blogging coz of my advice. One of her blogposts is about having expectations in relationships. I've always been of the opinion that "EXPECTATIONS LEAD TO DISAPPOINTMENTS, SURPRISES GIVE YOU HAPPINESS". Another friend of mine just broke up after an affair of almost two years... and it was kind of tough for me to even speak to her coz I went through all the emotions yet again coz of my breakup after three years! But, I guess I succeeded in getting her back to normalcy. Ano...

The title of this post seems to suggest that regional cinema and quality are two different things... so, lemme first clarify the same. NOTE: I am talking only about Kannada Cinema. There are quite a few films in recent times in Kannada that can be termed as "Quality Entertainment". Most of the other films can be termed as pathetic. Is it because we do not have good storywriters? Or is it because we do not bother about the social message that the film should portray? I'd rather think it is more because of the latter. If we lacked good storywriters, we would not have had even a single quality movie in Kannada. We do have many quality films. We did have wonderful movies in the past and I hope we will continue to have movies that provide wholesome family entertainment. "OM" was one of the first Kannada films to portray violence in a mass scale, but it did have a wonderful social message that violence would not lead you anywhere and also that taking revenge...

A close friend of mine mailed me to ask the difference between love and friendship. The argument was something like this: What is the difference between love and friendship? Aren’t they the same?? I often get confused between the two. Isn't love there in friendship or isn't friendship there in love??? I love my friends and the person who I love is my friend. Then what is it that makes them different… Many believe that love is the basis of all relations. Shouldn’t that be friendship? Take any relation and it begins with friendship. The understanding between the siblings is developed because they are friends with each other. The teacher student relation is built because the teacher understands the student as a friend would. The mother understands the child because she gets down to the level of the child and tries to make the child feel comfortable and be friends with him. Even the great love stories like “ Laila Majnu “, began with friendship that blossomed in their...

Image building.. How do you think it is possible? How can you expect a company image to be built overnight and how can you gain recognition worldwide when you have no name/image/recognition locally? Imagine you've received a call from XYZ company for an interview and you have not heard that name. You want to visit the company coz you think that since it is a budding company, it would give you a better prospect of growth. What would be your image of the company if you come to the interview only to find that the interview is non-existent? The interview was scheduled earlier, but was cancelled at the last moment without intimating the candidates. Even the office security guys have not heard about the interview. You go to that location assuming that there would be an interview but the building security person informs you that there is no interview and he does not know anything about a "walk-in" having been scheduled on that day for some position. What would be your imag...