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Selfishness

A friend of mine has this status message in his Gtalk:

"There is some self interest behind every friendship, There is no friendship without self interest. This is a bitter truth"

I feel that the poor guy has realised this the hard way coz he is proclaiming the same to his world of friends!

Recently, I had this chat conversation with a friend in which she evidently wanted to point out that I am not a saint as I claimed.. Well, I never claimed that I am a saint. I have been having the thought of being EGOISTIC and Selfish from quite a long time, even b4 I met her! My Orkut profile too contains about my EGO and I have been quite frank to admit that I am not a saint!

She also pointed out that in each of my blog post, there will be a gesture towards her and for the people who are common friends, they will come to know that I am pointing to her only.. Well, It was happening all these days coz I had thought she was a friend and not anything else.. But she is trying to clarify time and again that this is not the thing and she does not want "Chat friends", who do not contact her personally or who do not call or message her! Sorry dear, my view of friendship and your view of friendship are different!

Coming back to selfishness... Someone had mentioned that "Mother's Love is the only thing which is pure and without any demands" and a cousin of mine had promptly replied, "Try not giving her freedom of actions and try to question her on whatever she does... and do revert if she would still love you!"

I do not claim here again that he was right or the other someone was wrong.. it is just as per everyone's perspectives.

Sometimes I feel that a mother would continue loving you even if you do as per my cousin coz she has taken a lot of pains for you and she has undergone a lot of struggles for your sake and she does not want them to go in vain. So, if that is the case too.. it is a case of selfishness as it is "her efforts" to go in vain".

So, when that saying holds good (at times) even for mother's love, wouldn't it be good for "FRIENDSHIP"?

I was searching in my previous blog posts  for an earlier post on the same topic, but not having found that, I realised that the post is present in the form of a written musing in my diary and all that is required now is to convert to a soft-copy, which shall be done tomorrow!

Selfishness is not something great or new for me..I have been selfish and I will continue to be selfish as long as I am happy. I give more importance to my personal happiness than anything else in the world! That is one universal truth!

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Anantha said…
waiting for nxt post on selfishness maga...
15 January, 2008 00:06
Sukumar said…
Sorry people, I searched for that post all over the place but probably, it was destroyed by someone who did not like the way I think!
16 January, 2008 22:46
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