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Make n Break

These days, I keep hearing this word "Divorce" quite often. Wonder why people are so keen on breaking something that they made with great efforts.

Not taking names here but a very close friend of mine got married. Theirs was a very happy married life.. so happy that many folks felt jealous about their beautiful relationship. They were blessed with their next generation but a couple of years down the line, they are now separated. It came like a bolt from the blue when I got to hear this.

I know so many people in person who are separated and are living their own lives independently, albeit with a longing for companionship. The scenario is that the parents of such individuals are to face comments whenever a person of the other gender visits this person. Unfortunately, the parents of my age group are still old fashioned and this affects them.

Also, there is a saying.. It is easy to start something, it is easier to stop something. However, it is very tough to keep it going.

In Kannada too, the saying is "Kumbaranige Varusha, Donnege Nimisha" - it takes a potter a year to make a very beautiful pot but it takes less than a minute for a stick to destroy the same.

It is always a choice that you make when you "agree / disagree" to get married to a particular person. That is the making in question.. You make the choice to get married to a particular person. You have to stick on to that decision, regardless of any minor misunderstanding that might creep up and also ensure that the misunderstanding is only between the couple and doesn't even trickle down to the next generation. It is too tough on a small kid to understand why the parents are separating and with whom the kid should stay. You should not even get your parents or your friends involved.

As the Kannada saying goes.. "Ibbara Jagala, Mooraneavnige Laabha" - When two people fight, more often, the third person gets an advantageous situation out of this.

Why Break when you could have stopped Making? Think about this. Always!! 

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